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We will never be cancer free

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 Some of us are blessed to hear the words no evidence of disease or cancer-free. Words we prayed for. Words we waited through scans, treatments, bloodwork, procedures, and unbearable stretches of uncertainty to hear. And when they finally come, there is relief. There is gratitude. There is a breath you did not realize you had been holding. But there is also a truth that rarely gets spoken: Those words do not mean there is no evidence that cancer was ever here. The evidence may no longer be visible on a scan, but it can still be found everywhere else. It is in the body that no longer feels or functions the way it once did. In the scars, the missing pieces, the lingering pain, the exhaustion, the damaged nerves, the altered voice, and the fear attached to every new symptom. It is in the appointments that continue long after treatment ends. It is in the box we will check for the rest of our lives when a new-patient history form asks whether we have ever had cancer. A single checkmark ...

Happy Birthday, Mikayla

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 Happy 9th birthday, to our sweet Mikayla! Wasn't it yesterday that we went into the hospital and brought Jessica a container of treats from the yogurt place you loved? It was a magical ride.  Will that "I love you as high as the sky" and "p i z z a my papa made us pizza" be forgotten? Pictures of  Lucky, the horse, princesses, doll houses, and we can go on and on are all on our computers for you to see as is the journal nana is keeping.  How we wish we could call or see you and sing happy birthday like we did for so many years. Your parents won. Can they live with the pain we know you are feeling inspite of being brainwashed into believing we were mean.  Wherever you are today have a magical day. You are a magical kid. To the moon and back! Love always and forever, nana and papa. Huh?? How was this redacted? Terri you can join me in a crying party. @arik, you would be stuck at papa finish if not for us. You're welcome for helping you become the wealthy man...

Do you know this person?

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Kaustubh Naik Jul 7 What hurts a narcissist forever? For narcissists, having a good reputation and image is important. Narcissists are more bothered about how people view them. Narcissists want to look good, kind, and nice in front of people to gain attention, validation, appreciation, and adoration. They use reputation to control and dominate people. Narcissists feel terribly hurt when they are exposed. They don't want to look ordinary and unimportant in front of people. Narcissists can't cope with shame when they are exposed. Narcissists are terribly hurt when they don't have narcissistic supply. Narcissists can't live alone, and they are afraid when they lose control over people. For narcissists, everything is about control. Loss of narcissistic supply can trigger narcissistic collapse. Narcissists are afraid of being forgotten. Narcissists hate when people act like they don't exist. Narcissists' egos are hurt when people show they don't exist by ignoring...

July 4, 2026

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Thoughts on July 4, 2026.  I posted the following on Facebook in 2025.  I know this is long but you can read it little by little.Trump voters why did you vote for him a second time, AND HOW ARE YOU STILL SUPPORTING HIM? ASKING FOR A FRIEND I owe my Trump-supporting family and friends an apology. I’ve been critical of the Trump presidency and am still exhausted from the experience. But to be fair, President Trump wasn’t that bad, other than when: He incited an insurrection against the government Mismanaged a pandemic that killed nearly half a million Americans Separated children from their families, and lost those children in the bureaucracy Tear-gassed peaceful protesters on Lafayette Square so he could hold a photo op holding a Bible in front of a church Tried to block all Muslims from entering the country Got impeached, got impeached again Had the worst jobs record of any president in modern history Pressured Ukraine to dig dirt on Joe Biden Fired the FBI director for ...