Recipes for living, loving and laughing:Jo, Elliott, Cloey & Zoey's adventures

  Narcissists are disordered, disturbed individuals. They have developed a disorder due to their poor upbringing, and even genetic factors also contribute to the development of narcissism.  Narcissists are truly evil people because they have control over their behavior depending upon the people they are with. Narcissists are chameleons. They will change their behavior according to their needs and desires.  Narcissists are aware of their manipulation and abuse. They abuse you to gain control and dominance over you to feel powerful in relationships. Narcissists will abuse you and play the victim to escape accountability and responsibility. Narcissists will destroy your life and move on to someone else who isn't aware of their behavior. Narcissists are evil in human disguise. Narcissists don't change even with help of treatment.

by  Angela T. Nicholson When it’s all going wrong for the narc, they can experience a narcissistic collapse. And there are certain stages that they take to get to that point. They will first experience a series of narcissistic injuries that lead to narcissistic rage. They need to be praised and admired for the things that they pride themselves on. So, they might need to be the smartest, the most beautiful, have the most money. And if it is a covert narc, they need to be the best victim or martyr. So they need everybody feeling sorry for them. They need the constant attention of being the victim or they are martyring themselves. ‘I’ve sacrificed everything for my family.’ When you hold them accountable, when you say no to them, when you put down a boundary and sometimes things that you didn’t say that they wanted you to say, these can all lead to narcissistic injuries. And when they are in a narcissistic rage over the injuries, they will do these punishing behaviors, like the silent...

 A quiet teaching from the path… There are wounds that wisdom cannot explain. Not every hurt was meant to make sense. Some pain arrives because another was willing to cause it. And no amount of searching will turn cruelty into clarity. Do not chase the one who bit you. Do not sit in the grass asking the snake why it chose to harm. Instead… tend to your wound with compassion, protect your peace with devotion, and walk gently back toward safety. You were never the reason for the wound. You are the one who must now choose to heal.

 Dee used to love me. She has told me so many times. I was taken aback when she messaged me a political post (I am left. She is right.) I posted it on Facebook and got 180 comments addressing the picture rather than the reason I posted it. I will post it here.  There is a story here and when you have fewer years ahead than you do behind you, life changes. The woman who sent me this used to love me even with my politics. In May for an unknown reason her adult grandchildren took our grandchildren out of our lives. I can speculate as to why, but we love those kids more than is possible. She needed us at first. We dropped anything we had going on so they could stay over. There are many many articles about this new pandemic of adult children doing what these 2 have done. There are reasons that might be true or not, but we never spanked those kids or were anything but trustworthy and loved people in their lives. What do you think they are being told about Nana and Papa? Here today g...

 I may have mentioned the journal previously. I am keeping up with it. Some health issues: A transvaginal ultrasound, an MRI because they didn't like what they saw on the ultrasound and stress. Trump continues on. I was asked when I posted a couple of dark memes if I was alright. The answer is no and I will post them here. 

Being overweight- when I first met Jessica I was very heavy. She commented that she didn't want to hire a fat nanny. I lost 40 pounds, but I still can't make myself tall and blonde - well blonde yes! Elliott also has lost weight.   We do not have the money to hire an attorney, so we are hoping the parents will come to their senses. It makes no sense. They didn't like the treats they had. Is that a reason to never let the little ones never see the grandparents who have been in their lives from day 1? So some research and of course pictures. I have culled these from many sources.  We are the first to agree that when we first moved to California we....gave a 1 day old food we couldn't? Ok fast forward to a 2 year old and 4 year old. Yes we did give them treats especially when they told us that they have hot chocolate at the other parents' house. Yes, on non-school nights we let them stay up longer. In time, however after 6 weeks of therapy, we realized how important o...

 I was inspired to post this because 1. August 20, 1996 is the day my dad died and 2. He loved us with all his being, and 3. I am posting on a photo site for the topic love.  We still have not been able to contact the kids or anyone. Once the Loomis Levys answered an e-mail because I reminded them that I was a social worker, that discipline can be too strict, that I've lost count over the number of nannies who have come and gone and none of this is good parenting. They retorted by saying they would get a restraining order.  So, if anyone has any thoughts I would love to hear them.  Remember we are 2500 miles away. And the judge says "Why would you want to take these kids away from these grandparents? Oh because they indulge the kids? Hmm so do I, she says. Case dismissed and they will reimburse you for your plane ticket.