Narcissism

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I was a Social Worker for Head Start (MSW). This diagnosis particularly interests me because I've known a couple! 




Narcissists believe they are the guardians of truth and falsehood, and they have the right to punish as they see fit.

Narcissists can get triggered by seemingly trivial matters. So you may not know why they’re punishing you, or even that they’re punishing you at all.

Narcissists have many methods of punishment. However, they don’t always reveal why they’re treating you this way. So you may not know what’s going on. Because in your mind, you’ve done nothing wrong, and there’s no room for discussion. Just toxic behavior.

This may leave you scratching your head, wondering what’s going on. Why do narcissists act so strangely? Once you understand how narcissists punish, it will reveal what’s going on, and why they suddenly behave so differently.

Here’s a list of the most common forms of punishment used by narcissists…

The silent treatment is perhaps a harsher form of punishment than it seems. Often, you don’t know what you’ve “done wrong.” Therefore, you can’t come to a resolution because they won’t talk.

Partners of narcissists are often completely unaware of why they are being punished. From their perspective, the narcissist suddenly decides to ignore them, for no reason, or gives them short-hand answers. This can last for days, even weeks.

Narcissists often use the silent treatment as retaliation for boundaries imposed on them. Although they feel wronged, deep down they know they are being unreasonable. Rational discussion will reveal this. The silent treatment will not.

So, narcissists use ignoring to punish their partners and force them to comply, without having to openly discuss the unfair demands they are making.

Narcissists justify this by saying that you should know what’s wrong because you should always be focused on them. So, if you don’t know, you shouldn’t care. This gives them the right to mistreat you even more.

This ambiguity works in a similar way to ignoring, as it allows them to set unfair rules without being subjected to rational discussion.

SO PERFECT  It can be difficult to pinpoint why you feel neglected when you’re in a narcissistic relationship. Because “on paper,” you aren’t. Narcissists are adept at lowering your expectations.

Sadly, this leads many to believe they’re expecting too much. As a result, they accept a neglectful relationship. Of course, narcissists encourage this perception.

You can read more here How Narcissists Neglect You | YOUCAN !



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