This is so right on.

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 I will tell you a story. In January, 2022 I was diagnosed with breast cancer. This narcissist - our now estranged daughter in law- saw no need to text me "how are you doing" have the grandkids write a card - anything. There was no contact about my cancer. It truly was mind boggling. That may have been the beginning of our estrangement. She thought it too much to ask for and perhaps saw our expecting something was seen as mean because that is supposedly the reason for the estrangement. We are mean. 

Can a narcissist ignore or abandon you when you are sick or going through a crisis? 

By Barbie Kooper. 

Yes they can and you best will believe they will. They don't want to be burdened with your problems and you better be ready to face them all alone. No let me change that, it's worse than facing your problems alone. Facing them alone is doable but when you're facing them alone and you have a hindrance like a narcissist that is even weighing you down more and making things even more difficult on you... I don't wish that on anyone. It is nearly hell on Earth. But don't ever let them know that. Just learn not to even count on them at all. You have a procedure you need to get done have something else arrange for someone else to do it with you. Have someone else down as your emergency contact. Don't include them anything in your life like that because they're not going to be there for you and they're going to make it more difficult and just pray you don't get cancer or something like that. That's what I'm doing I'm praying that something like that don't happen because the last place I want to be is anywhere near my narcissist. Unfortunately, she is the keeper of the kids. 








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